Beneath The Soil
A companion for honest, living connection – to download or print. Explore the sections at your own pace. Also available in German: “Wo Tiefe wächst”.
The Living Tree Method · by Leyla Stuber
Grow in your own way.
Rooted in what’s real. Blooming in who you are. The Living Tree Method isn’t a checklist, a test or a framework you have to squeeze yourself into – it’s a quiet, gentle process: an invitation to reflect on yourself and to connect for real, in whatever way feels right for you.
- on your own
- as a pair
- as a constellation
- in a group
Who it’s for
The Living Tree Method is for you if …
With a lovingly designed workbook – with or without guidance – you move step by step through six living areas of relationship, inspired by the wisdom of trees.
- … you’re exploring alternative or non-monogamous ways of relating.
- … you’re looking for more clarity about your needs, desires and boundaries.
- … you value emotional honesty and slow, sustainable growth.
- … you’d love a tool that grows with you.
- … you long for connection rooted in freedom, care and authenticity.
- … you want to shape friendships, chosen family or metamour relationships more consciously.
It’s polyamory-inclusive – and open to anyone seeking living, genuine connection.
Six living areas
Discover the parts of the tree
By the end, you’ll hold your very own relationship tree in your hands – a living picture of the connection you’re tending.
- 01Roots – emotional safety, trust, being seen
- 02Trunk & branches – everyday life, structure, responsibility
- 03Leaves – communication, autonomy, rhythm
- 04Blossoms – joy, intimacy, shared meaning
- 05Seasons – change, growth, farewells, renewal
- 06Sun & water – energy, accessibility, consent, sustainability
Why a tree?
Trees grow wild, strong and in their own way.
They are deeply rooted – and stretch freely towards the sky. Every branch, every leaf, every season belongs.
The Living Tree Method uses the tree as a living metaphor, because your relationships don’t have to look like anyone else’s. They’re allowed to grow in their very own way.
Ways into the method
How you can work with it
On your own with the workbook, with 1:1 guidance, together with your people – or held by a group on a retreat.
Solo Traveller
Grow with intention. Heal at the root. A guided five-part journey through The Living Tree Method – in person or online, valid for 6 months.
Group Journey
The five-part journey for connections that want to deepen together – discovering your needs in tune with one another. Valid for 6 months.
Living Tree Retreat
On an in-person retreat, I guide you step by step through the method – in a safe space, held by community. Feel free to add your name to the list, with no commitment.
The guided journeys include email / WhatsApp support (reply within 48 hours) and the Living Tree guide “Beneath The Soil” (German edition: “Wo Tiefe wächst”).
Frequently asked questions
What you might be wondering
Yes. It supports both self-reflection and exploring together.
No rush
Your tree is waiting. It’s patient.
May you root deeply, grow truly, and bloom wildly.